The school bully has been around since school first started. There has always been those kids who could gain support and admiration for mocking and trying to point of differences of other children. I have always questioned who was worse the bully or the other people who rally around them. Of course there’s those who don’t agree with what’s happening but they don’t say anything because of fear or just not wanting to get involved. But there are plenty more who cheer the person on and even join in the mocking.
I was bullied throughout public school. I was told I was fat and ugly and was mocked even for the clothes I wore. We didn’t have a computer and I didn’t have a cell phone as technogly was not like it is today. So I was able to get away from it because it never went beyond the school yard or park should I meet up with them. Around the end grade six or seven with the help of my Parents and some real friends I realized that these people weren’t better than me and that there wasn’t anything wrong with me. I also started thinking why would I even want to be friends with people who acted like that. I started to wear dark clothing that was baggy and made no attempt to try to fit in, I just saw no reason for it. I figured that it was time to just be me and forget what other kids thought. I learned to ignore the comments and would think every time I heard one that I am better than that.
Sadly though other kids and teens can’t get to that point or get away from the constant tormenting. They aren’t able to see that those kids that are bothering them are really not good people and they shouldn’t care about their opinions. They need help to deal with what’s going on and maybe even find a solution. Teachers and Parents try to help but it’s very hard for them to make a difference sometimes. I’m not saying that they can’t help, because it is an important first step but it’s hard for them to stop what’s going on especially now a days.
In a world where everyone is so connected there is just no escape from it. An embarrassing moment could be caught on tape or a picture taken and within moments it is plastered all over the internet. An email written in confidence can be sent to everyone, people are able to create face book pages, web sites and tweet their hate for other’s and there is nothing done about it.
I am not saying that I have the solution to end bullying but I think I have a way that we can try to prevent it on social media sites and help ease some of the torment. I am not picking on Facebook but I will use it as an example because not only does it seem to be the most popular social media site but I think it needs a lot of work and we need to start somewhere.
I would first like to say that I am all of freedom of speech but when you are maliciously attacking another person a line needs to be drawn. What I am suggestion is that we have people who monitor the groups that are started and delete those that are promoting hatred towards others. I know there are those who would argue that you could block those sites and not look at them but in the case of bullying , racial hatred and many other situations these sites need to be taken down. We need to make sure that the hatred and mocking doesn’t spread not only for the person who is being bullied but so other’s don’t think this behavior is normal and accepted. We need a way to flag the person and if they get too many reports against them block them from posting anything for a while. If their behavior continues then they should be blocked from Facebook for an allotted amount of time. This would send a message loud and clear that we won’t let this behavior to continue. Also showing the people who are the victims of bullies that we care.
There are so many pages now on Facebook that are disgusting as they are disturbing condemning other people and ridiculing them. There is everything from Cancer is Funny sites which post very disturbing things to pages dedicated to making a person’s life miserable and taunting them the world over. These can be found by entering a few simple phrases, names or words. Recently Amanda Todd became the latest victim of bullying. She was tormented through Facebook for over three years and a page was made embarrassing her and belittling her to the world. Face book pages are still being started mocking her and what she went through. Why is this being allowed? We don’t need more sites like these popping up we need to get rid of them.
We need to have a page where kids can talk about bullying and how they can get through it. Encouraging kids and teens to stand up for each other and put an end to all this hatred. Showing them that when they stand up for one another then the person doesn’t have to face it alone and they can help stop it before it begins. We need a secure place online for kids and teens to be able to talk to each other about their bullying experiences so they know that they are not alone. That way we get them talking about the problem so they are not just keeping it inside. Maybe even school counselors could join the group and that way if a person didn’t want to talk to their counselor in person they could do it online. Because sometimes it is easier to write than it is to talk and this might be a way to get more kids/teens help.
So Mr. Zuckerberg it’s your move, are you just going to sit there and let this problem escalate or are you going to be the first to do something about it? It’s time to take a stand against bullying and rid the social media sites of this hostility.
We all know that words can hurt and letting them stay as a sort of monument to ignorance is something we all can’t stand for. Let me be the first to offer my time and be your first employee to help delete these hate sites and fix a major problem that is effecting people all over the world. Let Facebook be what I believe it was intended to be, a place where people can stay in touch with each other and connect with one another in a positive way.
As I said before I am not saying this would end bullying but it is a step in the right direction. It will show the people with cruel intentions that we wont stand for it anymore. Also we need to show the victims of bullies that we are willing to stand up for them and show them support. We need to let them know that people world wide care about them and what’s going on.
If you agree with me that something needs to be done let’s make this go viral. Let’s make the media sites clean up the hatred and help prevent cyber bullying and stalking. Hopefully this will come to the attention of Mark Zuckerberg and he takes me up on my offer of employment. Let’s make Facebook positive instead of negative and show the people who bully and discriminate that we wont stand for it anymore!!!